I blog for mostly selfish reasons. I like feeling a connection to people who understand my pain, and I like having an outlet that is disconnected from my immediate social and family circle. I blog to help myself, and I don't know that I do a whole lot of helping others with this space. There are so many wonderful writers who do the helping much better than me. I'm OK with that because I just really don't have any advice. I'm still in it. In the muck and the confusion and the hurt. I don't have answers, just experiences. My recovery moves at a snail's pace.
For so long, this blog has been exactly what I needed. It has provided with me an amazing sense of peace in some very dark times. I've been able to work through difficult memories and receive support when I needed it the most.
But like everything in life, things change. And I'm not sure this blog is helping me anymore. When I started this blog, I thought that I would be writing the story of a woman who divorced a sex addict because he wouldn't seek help. But as it turns out, I am now in the situation where I am still married, and the man I am married to is purposefully and diligently changing his life for the better. Along with him, I am also changing my life for the better.
Lately, I've felt like blogging has been a way for me to continue to isolate myself from real connection. There are a lot of things I write here that I don't tell Husband. I still don't feel safe in being vulnerable with him, but I started working with a new therapist, and I joined a women's trauma support group. I am making connections in my new city. But perhaps the most important reason to not isolate myself is that husband is trying so hard to be a good husband. I don't know if it will ever be enough. But I feel the urge to engage a bit in my real-life marriage and take a break from thinking through it on my blog.
So I might take a break here. I'll probably come back. I might even come back soon. I don't want to obligate myself to anything. I like to avoid that now as much as possible.
So for now, I'm going to go live a bit. I'll let you know how it goes.
